Not an Oracle

The FIA or in less polite terms; the 'Fuck It Attitude' has served me well in times of dire need and also in times of necessary amusement. When things begin to grow tiresome or you suddenly find yourself bogged down in a world of 'what ifs?' and 'how comes?' just say 'fuck it'. Without trying to sound too much like an infomercial or a less-than-helpful life coach, the FIA is an essential outlet when the going gets rough. Whisper it silently internally or scream it so loud that your lungs shrivel into dry, raspy sacks. The FIA works for almost all scenarios and situations.

You stubbed your toe getting out of the shower. Fuck it.
You spill coffee on your clean white shirt. Fuck it.
That crazy lady shouted obscenities and spat you from across the street. Fuck it.

You see where I am going with this.

I apologise for the strong language, I appreciate that it's not the most eloquent nor is it the most original or blossoming of words but it delivers an effective punch and at the same time provides a much-needed sense of catharsis. So next time you find yourself in a situation where you trip over your feet in the middle of a busy train station or you call your boss the wrong name in a meeting, remember the magic of the FIA.

Some days are a chore. You wake up too early and after that first cup of coffee, everything starts to go wrong. You leave the house and it starts to rain and you remember thinking fifteen minutes before ‘I should grab that umbrella’. You roll your eyes and suppress a smile, ‘such a cliche’ you say to yourself. Then the wind picks up and the rain turns torrential and the hair you had spent twenty minutes perfecting has been whipped and tossed out of shape and you throw up your hood in resentment. ‘Fine’ you say to yourself and you give in; you challenge the wind and rain to come at you. You don’t care anymore, you do your best to prove to the world that it does not matter that you are freezing cold and soaked to the bone and look worse than you did before you rolled out of bed. You reside in the knowledge that it can only get better from now on. Of course, within a few more minutes, you are proven completely wrong by the neighbourly passer-by who seems unable to acknowledge that you are walking in the same direction and pushes past you, knocking you into a puddle. Of course it splashes up your leg and it’s ice cold and it causes you to gasp. You think of obscenities to shout at this rude passer-by but by the time you pluck up the courage to utter one of them, he has vanished out of sight. And thus, the day follows suit. Everything that could go wrong does go wrong. At times, you find it hysterical. you think it must be some sort of personal cosmic joke or you are the prime target of a hidden camera show. These are merely grand illusions and you are not important enough to star in a hidden camera show. Maybe it’s karma you tell yourself but the worst thing you did was forget to pay a bill or lost your temper when your phone ran out of battery power right when you needed it. But what about the time you let a lady go before you in the supermarket queue when she was in a hurry or the time you ran after a gentleman after he had dropped his wallet whilst crossing the road. The least you can expect is a ‘thank you’.

And then you are reminded of why we get up in the morning. It could be a startling sunset, one of those where the sky illuminates with a plethora of colours, especially when withered clouds are back-lit with a green-purple tinge and there’s a ritualistic stillness in the air as though everything is waiting for the solar glow to diminish before it can come alive. It could be those kind words from a loved one or an embrace when touch feels like it’s been imprisoned for a century. A calm breeze conversing with the trees or your favourite song appears on your ipod when you have set it to ‘shuffle’. A cup of hot chocolate and an old movie while curled up under the bed covers. A moment of creativity. A random act of kindness. A kiss. Life can be heavy, it can be frustrating and bleak but we know that it doesn’t last forever and everything passes. There will be bad times but there will also be good and we have to carry the good with us, in everything we do. We may feel burdened with the negativity but we can choose to focus on the good.